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| Why are parents worried about sending their children abroad? | | | Vijay Garg
Some time ago, parents wanted their children to become doctors, engineers, lawyers and professors. A few years ago a different kind of whirlwind, which has given a completely different shape to our social and family life. Now the children as well as the parents are looking forward to their sacrament abroad. This is not a bad thing at all, but it is a great obstacle for young children to live in a different environment from their parents, excessive openness and lack of guidance from parents, to develop an important aspect of their life properly. Is formed.
In this article, I will discuss with this fact in mind. First of all, it is important for children and parents to take a bird’s eye view of this trend. Unemployment, poverty, illiteracy, corruption, stagnation have eroded the confidence of the people in the last few years. At the same time, the allure of foreign life has played a major role. Our governments get votes by deceiving good governance but do not pay attention to development works which do not create employment opportunities. Students are forced to take small jobs after getting degrees, which makes it very difficult for them to support their families. This hardship pushes them abroad.
At the same time, under the influence of globalization, due to the proliferation of media and the exposure of people involved in the export business, most of the people are also affected. Agents loudly glorify foreign luxuries and pleasures, while realizing the ground realities like doing all the housework yourself, doing the job, studying, taking care of the back house, adapting to the new environment, etc. at all. Not explained. Both parents and children are willing to take risks to go abroad, whether it is to climb the Mexican wall or to enter the country by boat. Thousands of young people have lost their precious lives in these two ways. It is the responsibility of the parents to exercise restraint and teach their child to go out in a proper manner, even if it takes more than two years. At least some kind of name will not bother the parents or the one who leaves.
Second, parents are convinced by sending their children abroad, when the need is the opposite. The fact is that as long as the child lives in front of the parents, he is right. The child also begins to hide a lot from his parents when he hides from them. Therefore, dealing with this situation becomes even more challenging for them. So it is important to invite the challenge here, not to run away from it. This is where parents should get in the habit of being more vigilant and taking on challenges by understanding the fragility of the situation. Sitting contentedly in this place means taking your child’s life off the rails.
The reason for this parental satisfaction is our social class, which presents the hearsay with exaggeration and exaggeration, which changes its appearance. These are the people who have never seen the face of a foreign country but leave no stone unturned in offering the parents of a child who has gone abroad to the moon. Now leave this dilapidated house, build a two storey mansion and park the big car in the yard. Now you don’t even have to work, wear luxurious white clothes and carry the car. So-and-so’s son had gone out, and within three months they had taken a house and a car in the city. Hearing such things, naive parents start pressuring their child to send money, even if he has gone on a study visa. Education, house rent, part time job as well as other big and small problems will be happening.
At such times parents should use prudent action to encourage the child to focus on the study as well as emotional support. When giving advice, one should advise not to worry about money and home. Don’t forget to lighten the mood on the phone etc., but talk of rising art, like this time the harvest has been very good, your mother’s reports have come true, your sister or brother has been in the first place in her class. Etc. etc. Instead of asking for money, we should say don’t be bothered by money, we will send more if needed. When you start earning well, all the debt will be paid off automatically. At the same time, talking on video calls etc. does not make the child feel thousands of miles away. In this way we are able to climb the next step of the challenge.
Now when the child starts to settle down a little, he should still be attached to it by small things like, what vegetable is made today, how cold it is. Show your house by video call tomorrow, also show cap with red sweater and black jeans. This will ensure that the child does not neglect to dress and to clean the house. What is the calculation of food, do you wash your hands while eating bread? How often and what do you eat? Everyday bathing or not, how are the clothes washed and ironed? How many friends did you make? And you should also talk to them on the pretext of getting their phone numbers from time to time and asking about their condition from time to time. With all these things the child will be reluctant to go in the wrong direction. In this way we will be able to give him the right advice as needed and the child will not feel lonely.
Children generally lack experience according to age, when they go abroad to study. Temperament and anger are commonplace at this age. Children get into fights over small things. Relationships between boys and girls are also common. In such situations, parents should try to keep their children calm and calm, while maintaining good manners. Nothing more can be done in a love affair, just find a good partner and teach loyalty.
While living abroad, when the day-to-day relationship with parents breaks down, the fight becomes more than just an argument. Such as crimes due to infidelity in love, even murder, etc., up to jail time.
In addition, many life threatening adventures such as over speeding, diving, bungee jumping also put children at risk. Parental support can prevent many of these traumatic events from causing huge losses.
In this regard, I think it is important to briefly describe the three incidents that took place in New Zealand in order to prevent such tragic incidents from happening. In the first case, four friends were going for a walk on the beach road in their car. Due to the high speed of the vehicle at night time, the vehicle got out of control and sank in the sea. Four months later, the vehicle was spotted at sea level. The bodies of the Punjabi boys, who were found strangled, were exhumed by the administration. Some of them were students and some were working boys. Imagine for a second you were transposed into the karmic driven world of Earl.
The second incident was a daytime road accident in which four boys were driving their car in the opposite direction at twice the speed of the road. Three of them died on the spot and a fourth was seriously injured in a head-on collision with an oncoming car.
The third event is not one, but one of the most frequent. Such incidents occur in countries bordering the coast. New Zealand is an island nation surrounded by oceans. During leisure time, children go beyond the prescribed distance in the water, including jeans, by ignoring a warning or a request. Once here, the jeans become so heavy with water that it becomes difficult to walk. At the same time, strong water waves come and go.
Such incidents happen in thousands every year and sadly most of them are Punjabi children. Now my direct aim in describing all this is towards the parents. Most of the victims of such accidents are children whose parents are not attached to them. From time to time they do not get the right guidance as required. In the end, I would like to make a request to the parents with folded hands that the stars of our eyes, for which we are ready to die for life, pray day and night, millions of dreams are fulfilled, their meaning is something of life instead of decorating with their own hands. Give them a moment, then we will never have to see such a time. |
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